Whether you plan to get married one day or not, one of the most important things you can do while single is to set Godly priorities and focuses. This is the time to establish the habits you want to maintain for the rest of your life.
Some of you may know me personally, and be thinking, “What does the married guy know about single life? He doesn’t know how hard it is to be single!” Let me respond in two parts.
First, Yes I am married (have been for over 11 years as of this writing), and I struggled for many years in my marriage because I had not properly prepared while single for the life that would follow once I was married. Once I was married all the daily “stuff” of married life took over and I lost focus on my true duties as a husband. The priorities you set as a single person will help define your marriage attitude and response to your spouse and God.
Second, I have counseled, observed, prayed for, and cried for more than a few couples and singles over the years and while doing so, most of the problems in early marriage come down to improper perceptions and sin brought in from their time being single. Whether it be sexual sin, pride, or just a complete lack of understanding God. I pray that this will find a heart receptive to God’s will and the whisperings of the Holy Spirit.
While you are single you should be focused on the person of God. It’s a time to build you relationship with Jesus, and hear His voice. Your understanding of the word will grow, your faith will mature further, and you learn to better follow the Holy Spirit’s direction in your life. If you train yourself to spend time with him as a single, then you will bring that piety, consistency, and strong foundation of those habits to your marriage.
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